After my post What Everybody Should Do ASAP I recieved many kind words from my friends. They told me that it was such a beautifully written post and that I was very strong to open up and share my thoughts and feelings about this – somewhat sensitive – subject.
For me it was a natural thing to do. The subject I wrote about was something I was struggling with, so when I found a solution that actually made me feel better I didn’t see any reason not to inform others of it and it’s benefits. I was just happy to maybe help someone.
But obviously it’s not that natural for everyone. I think the reason why I find it easy to open up about different issues I might have is that I’ve stopped fleeing from them. By really embracing them and accepting that they’re a part of me and my life I unconsciously work through them. Without even realising it, I’m sorting things out. I’m making connections and drawing conclusions about why I’m experiencing what I’m experiencing, why I’m feeling what I’m feeling, and eventually find the hidden source of it all.
When I’ve done that I’ve made peace with the problem. I don’t find it as bothering anymore, even if it of course still makes certain situations in my life much harder than it should be. But if someone in that situation asks me what’s wrong I can without doubts tell them. Not the whole story, but enough to make them understand.
Then I can see why sharing it on the world wide web can seem a bit more terrifying (even on a small site like mine). What makes me want and dare to share my worked through information here is that I would’ve wanted someone to provide me that information while I was struggling with the problem. So when I write posts about sensitive subjects, it’s simply because I hope it will keep someone else from feeling like they’re going through the same thing on their own.
I’m not sure all of this makes sense, but to somewhat sum things up I think it’s important to embrace ones problem and make peace with them. Not only will that make it easier to handle situations where the problem shows it’s true colours, but it will also make it easier to talk about. With one self, a friend, a teacher, a parent, a computer… You name it.
I hope you found this post inspiring. Stay original, xoxo
Failure is a scary thing. The fear of not succeeding keeps many from doing what they really want to do. Especially when it comes to trying something new or doing something which is not totally accepted by ones community. The hankering to prove those people, those who don’t accept your ideas, wrong is not bigger than the fear of failing and having to hear people think “Who did you think you were to think you could do something like that?”.
This post is going to be all about that. Success, failure and the importance of trying and trying again. Being scared of failing eliminates the oppurtunity to both personal and global development. It also deprives you of your freedom. Being locked up is not necessarily a physical state, the restrictions you put on your passions and true wishes are just as prohibiting.
In Sweden we have a concept called “Jantelagen”. It’s basically a norm which claims that no one can stand out or think they are capable of something someone else isn’t. In smaller places, such as where I live, this norm is taken seriously. If you get the choice to go big or go home, you’re expected to go home. In a reality like that it’s hard to not be afraid of failing when doing something which breaks “Jantelagen”.
I’ve struggled to truly be myself. To do what I want to do, to over-win my fear of failing. I have not yet crossed the finish line, but I have reached a point where I’m not afraid to dream. I’m not afraid to have visions, set goals or think further than my community might want me to. But most importantly: I’m not afraid to get up when I fall. I’m not afraid to try again after one failed attempt. Or four for that matter.
Furthermore I’m having a hard time grasping how you’re supposed to reach success without failing. As I’ve written in one of my songs (yes, I write songs): when you succeed, you succeed, when you bleed, you learn. Every fail comes with a lesson. Don’t let that new knowledge be wasted! Give it another shot and put it to good use! If you once beat the fear of failing and get started with whatever you want to do, the next step is to not give up in case you actually fail. Because you probably will, the first time. But failure is not the end. It’s the start of a new beginning.
Stay original gorgeous, I believe in you. xoxo
I am now going to tell you a story. It’s an important one when it comes to my personal growth as well as health and therefore I feel obligated to share it. Because what I end up doing in the end of this story is something I think every single person on this planet should do too.
It was a day in late April. As the amount of sun-hours grew, so did the number of people talking about bikini bodies. My superficial insecurities thrived from all of the perfectly toned stomachs and unbelievebly lifted butts I saw more and more often on Instagram. One day I realised that I was feeling happy about being hungry. My brain had compromised it all to that the way of achieving what I wanted, or what society told me I wanted, was to not eat (I’m not too comfortable talking about my relationship with food yet but I think you get the gesture).
The same day I was lying on my couch, scrolling through Instagram. About half of the pictures made me think about the realisation I’d just had. I was suffocating from hearing all the different voices in my head. “I need to start working out”, “I need to stop eating so much”, “You do not need to do shit, now finish your cookie”. The last thought won that battle. I did not fall for the pressure of achieving the unachievable. Instead, in panic and frustration, I went through all of the people I was following on Instagram and unfollowed every single account which made me feel bad about myself. I believe that was around 120 accounts.
Doing that was one of the best things I’ve EVER done. I felt so empowered and proud from being able to cut the cords to so many different sources of illness. Because I didn’t just unfollow people who made me feel bad about my body, but also people from my past who had treated me badly and made me feel bad all over again just by being in my feed. To somehow turn these words into a clear message, I really encourage you to do what I did: clear out sources of illness from your social media, especially Instagram. It’s such a small thing to do but it changes sooo much. And while you’re at it, you can start following some nice and positive acounts such as @selfloveclub, @bodypositivememes, @omgkenzieee and @bodyposipanda.
Stay original, stay strong and take good care of yourself gorgeous. xoxo
I’m currently in upper secondary school and some days I have a whole lot of studying to do. Unfortunately I sometimes feel very unmotivated to actually study. If you’ve ever felt unmotivated to study (it’s okay, we all have) you also know that it feels like the hardest toughest and most unappealing thing in the world to finish all of the assignments in front of you. Therefore, I tried to find a few strategies to survive a studying session even when ones motivation is nowhere to be seen. Read and enjoy, I hope it helps!
1. Write a list of what you need to do. This gives you a good overview of what needs to be done. When you have a lot of things whirling around in your head even the smallest of them seem like mountains when it’s really just grit. Making lists will help you avoid this.
2. Divide everything into smaller steps. Grit can too seem like a lot. I like to be really specific about what I need to do. For example, instead of just writing “read page 34-46”, I write “read page 34-36, 37-39, 40-42” and so on. I find that it feels more moderate that way.
3. Make a schedule. Put these small steps into a schedule. I usually put smaller breaks in the schedule as well. By doing that you will motivate yourself to complete the steps before the break since taking that break is all you really want.
4. Reward yourself. Decide to take a piece of chocolate or something else you find tasty after a certain amount of work. I usually reward myself after solving a math problem, reading a page or learning a word.
5. Just start. The hardest but most important thing to do. Because if you never start, you’ll never finish. Sometimes all you need is to sit down at the table and open a book.
Good luck everyone!