“When you try your best, but you don’t succeed. When you get what you wanted, but not what you need. When you feel so tired, but you can’t sleep. Stuck in reverse.”
Sometimes life is not what you want it to be. Instead it’s like it says in the lyric above: stuck in reverse. The more you try, the more you fail. The more energy you gather, the more energy you lose. The stronger you act, the weaker you actually get. I am in a phase like that right now and believe me when I say it is not a lot of fun…
For some reason I always end up in this phase around this time of the year. I get less motivated, less productive, I can’t sleep, my mental health goes downhill and I get overall more tired. One theory is that the mind imitates the weather, which is gatting rainier and more grey by the day. But since my love for autumn is as big as it is I’m not exactly convinced.
Whatever the reason is, the fact remains that it’s tiring to be tired. Every tiny little task feels like a mountain rising up in front of me and the thought of climbing it becomes a mountain of it’s own. It’s a bad cycle that ends with me stressing out over the fact that I’m stressing out. The source can not be cut to solve the problem since the problem itself is the source of it.
It is at this moment that I just have to accept that this is how it’s going to be for a while ahead. Mental breakdowns are going to become a part of my everyday life, my bad mood is going to feel like my personality and I’m probably going to call in sick more now than ever. But it’s just a phase. I will handle it, I will move forward and eventuelly I will get out of it. Soon I will no longer be stuck in reverse.
Bloggers and influencers of other kinds rarely show their downs of their lives if that’s not their niche. It’s all ups, and I understand that that is what they choose to show. Even if I have brought up sensitive subjects I have always tried to keep a positive tone whilst doing so. Today, I didn’t. Maybe it’s because I’m in this phase I’ve been writing about, but it doesn’t really matter. Because this is as much, if not more, me than anything else I’ve written and shared here. Life isn’t just ups.
I am anyhow going to encourage you to stay original, gorgeous. xoxo
The one and the same thing can be done with different levels of ease depending on ones attitude towards it. Or rather ones reasons behind it. Doing things just because you have to is for example significantly more demanding than doing things because you think they are fun… So, how do you make the demanding tasks easy? By finding the right motivation.
When I first started Originally My about a year ago it didn’t take long before I made posts only for the sake of it. I was so hung up on posting every secound day that I completely forgot about actually filling the posts with content I was proud of and found inspiring. Instead of writing about subjects I cared about I constantly grasped after the first best thing, a strategy that was highly unsustainable for a longer period of time.
Since I restarted it all this summer I have only published posts I think are good. Many of them could be much better, both regarding the writing and the photography, but they are me. My style, my skills, my values. Why? Because I write them for me. My motivation to make posts is no longer to create the perfect website, as it was last year, but rather to express my creativity and hopefully inspire someone else. I’ve found a new, more motivating, motivation.
The same goes for pretty much anything. Are you trying to start running? Sign up for a race you can’t get out of. Do you have to clean out your wardrobe? Think of all of the new clothes you will be able to fill it with. Are you studying something boring which seems to be a complete waste of time? Find something in your future that may benefit from you learning all of it now. Or, you could just bribe yourself with candy…
It’s all about finding the right motivation for you.
I wish you the best of luck with that, and don’t you forget to stay original! xoxo
When I set my mind to it, I can be the most productive human being alive. I just do and do and do and do until there’s nothing left to do! And even then, I often start a new project or pick up one from years ago. This level of productivity rarely lasts over longer periods of time though. But I’ve actually managed to decode what pushes me forward and gives me motivation, so that I can stay productive for as long as I need. Below are a few tips and tricks to help you do the same!
Never in my seventeen years have I missed a deadline. I am the type of person that finishes things on time, even when it comes to the things I hate the most. Without deadlines the chanses are big that I simply won’t take the time to do what I should. But I literally just have to set a time and date and it will get done. That’s just how I work and I believe a lot of you do to.
By making lists of what you need to do you’ll not only get a good overview of what’s ahead but also let your brain rest by not having to remember all of it. It can also help to include how much time each task will take. If you have 10 minutes to spare some day, you can look at your list and see if you can get something done in that amount of time.
Find Tools to Help You
Personally I have two tools which helps me stay productive. The first one is a weekly planner. It’s nothing special, it just helps me prioritize and see when I have time for the things I want but don’t have to do. The second thing is the app Todoist. You divide your tasks into categories/projects, set deadlines, set how high of a priority it is and when you’re done you can easily tick it off. It makes productivity so much easier, I promise!
These are the secrets behind my productivity! I hope you liked this post and that I’ll see you back here soon.
Stay original, gorgeous! xoxo
I’ve mentioned that I’m not a morning person before, but lately I’ve started to find strategies to handle them. Two weeks ago I went back to school. About two nights before I thought about how chaotic my mornings always are when getting back there. For years they’ve primarily consisted of not finding anything to wear, forgetting everything there is to forget and over-all stressing until you don’t know what’s what. I decided once and for all that that was not going to be my reality anymore and so far I’ve actually managed to have quite nice mornings. Today I thought I would share some of the most important changes I’ve made to make every morning my best.
Prepare & Plan
My number one tip is to prepare as much possible the night before to minimize the number of tasks you have to tick of in the morning. For me, these tasks include picking my outfit, packing my bag and deciding what to have for breakfast. Then I don’t have to make any decisions nor look for anything I need to bring that day. Everything is under control.
Skip the Snoozing
I know that the bed is the most wonderful place to be in the morning and how easily those “five more minutes” turns into half an hour extra. I still do it sometimes, but my best mornings are actually the mornings I get out of bed the second I wake up. Yes, I’m tired, but I would be anyway as long as I wouldn’t sleep for at least five more hours. So instead of putting myself in a situation where I have to stress my way through the morning I get out of bed as quickly as possible and enjoy doing my makeup for 30-45 minutes. If you’re not a big makeup enthusiast, maybe you could start the day with another interest, a bit of reading or an episode of your favourite show? Those extra minutes of doing something you find therapeutic gives your brain a chance to wake up properly. This of course works differently for everyone, but it deserves to be given a try.
Make Time for Breakfast
The fact that breakfast is the most important meal of the day is not to be taken lightely. I always set aside at least 30 minutes to make and enjoy a proper breakfast. As I wrote above I decide what to eat for breakfast the night before since I seriously can’t handle putting together a healthy, energizing and well-tasting meal in the morning. For me that’s literally an impossible mission and I think a lot of people feel the same way. If you’re one of them, give it a go to plan what to eat beforehand.
Take a Moment for Yourself
At some point during the morning I recommend you to take a moment and think about things you’re grateful for, what will make this day good and how amazing you are. You bring out a positivive mindset which will make all challenges of the day easier to approach and handle. By doing some ego boosting you’ll also build up your confidence and eventually walk out the door feeling like you own the world. These things take time, but the time to start is now.
In conclusion, I believe in analyzing your current morning routine and identify all elements that take more energy than they give to then exchange or fix them. A good morning often leads to a good day. Give yourself a chance to experience those days.
I hope this post helped you in some way and that I’ll see you again soon. Stay original, gorgeous! xoxo
After my post What Everybody Should Do ASAP I recieved many kind words from my friends. They told me that it was such a beautifully written post and that I was very strong to open up and share my thoughts and feelings about this – somewhat sensitive – subject.
For me it was a natural thing to do. The subject I wrote about was something I was struggling with, so when I found a solution that actually made me feel better I didn’t see any reason not to inform others of it and it’s benefits. I was just happy to maybe help someone.
But obviously it’s not that natural for everyone. I think the reason why I find it easy to open up about different issues I might have is that I’ve stopped fleeing from them. By really embracing them and accepting that they’re a part of me and my life I subconsciously work them through. Without even realising it, I’m sorting things out. I’m making connections and drawing conclusions about why I’m experiencing what I’m experiencing, why I’m feeling what I’m feeling, and eventually find the hidden source of it all.
When I’ve done that I’ve made peace with the problem. I don’t find it as bothering anymore, even if it of course still makes certain situations in my life much harder than they should be. But if someone in that situation asks me what’s wrong I can without doubt tell them. Not the whole story, but enough to make them understand.
Then I can see why sharing it on the world wide web can seem a bit more terrifying (even on a small site like mine). What makes me want and dare to share my worked through information here is that I would’ve wanted someone to provide me that information while I was struggling with the problem. So when I write posts about sensitive subjects, it’s simply because I hope it will keep someone else from feeling like they’re going through the same thing on their own.
I’m not sure if all of this makes sense, but to somewhat sum things up I think it’s important to embrace ones problems and make peace with them. Not only will that make it easier to handle situations where a problem shows it’s true colours, but it will also make it easier to talk about it. With one self, a friend, a teacher, a parent, a computer… You name it.
I hope you found this post inspiring. Stay original, xoxo
Failure is a scary thing. The fear of not succeeding keeps many from doing what they really want to do. Especially when it comes to trying something new or doing something which is not totally accepted by ones community. The hankering to prove those people, those who don’t accept your ideas, wrong is not bigger than the fear of failing and having to hear people think “Who did you think you were to think you could do something like that?”.
This post is going to be all about that. Success, failure and the importance of trying and trying again. Being scared of failing eliminates the oppurtunity to both personal and global development. It also deprives you of your freedom. Being locked up is not necessarily a physical state, the restrictions you put on your passions and true wishes are just as prohibiting.
In Sweden we have a concept called “Jantelagen”. It’s basically a norm which claims that no one can stand out or think they are capable of something someone else isn’t. In smaller places, such as where I live, this norm is taken seriously. If you get the choice to go big or go home, you’re expected to go home. In a reality like that it’s hard to not be afraid of failing when doing something which breaks “Jantelagen”.
I’ve struggled to truly be myself. To do what I want to do, to over-win my fear of failing. I have not yet crossed the finish line, but I have reached a point where I’m not afraid to dream. I’m not afraid to have visions, set goals or think further than my community might want me to. But most importantly: I’m not afraid to get up when I fall. I’m not afraid to try again after one failed attempt. Or four for that matter.
Furthermore I’m having a hard time grasping how you’re supposed to reach success without failing. As I’ve written in one of my songs (yes, I write songs): when you succeed, you succeed, when you bleed, you learn. Every fail comes with a lesson. Don’t let that new knowledge be wasted! Give it another shot and put it to good use! If you once beat the fear of failing and get started with whatever you want to do, the next step is to not give up in case you actually fail. Because you probably will, the first time. But failure is not the end. It’s the start of a new beginning.
Stay original gorgeous, I believe in you. xoxo
I am now going to tell you a story. It’s an important one when it comes to my personal growth as well as health and therefore I feel obligated to share it. Because what I end up doing in the end of this story is something I think every single person on this planet should do too.
It was a day in late April. As the amount of sun-hours grew, so did the number of people talking about bikini bodies. My superficial insecurities thrived from all of the perfectly toned stomachs and unbelievebly lifted butts I saw more and more often on Instagram. One day I realised that I was feeling happy about being hungry. My brain had compromised it all to that the way of achieving what I wanted, or what society told me I wanted, was to not eat (I’m not too comfortable talking about my relationship with food yet but I think you get the gesture).
The same day I was lying on my couch, scrolling through Instagram. About half of the pictures made me think about the realisation I’d just had. I was suffocating from hearing all the different voices in my head. “I need to start working out”, “I need to stop eating so much”, “You do not need to do shit, now finish your cookie”. The last thought won that battle. I did not fall for the pressure of achieving the unachievable. Instead, in panic and frustration, I went through all of the people I was following on Instagram and unfollowed every single account which made me feel bad about myself. I believe that was around 120 accounts.
Doing that was one of the best things I’ve EVER done. I felt so empowered and proud from being able to cut the cords to so many different sources of illness. Because I didn’t just unfollow people who made me feel bad about my body, but also people from my past who had treated me badly and made me feel bad all over again just by being in my feed. To somehow turn these words into a clear message, I really encourage you to do what I did: clear out sources of illness from your social media, especially Instagram. It’s such a small thing to do but it changes sooo much. And while you’re at it, you can start following some nice and positive acounts such as @selfloveclub, @bodypositivememes, @omgkenzieee and @bodyposipanda.
Stay original, stay strong and take good care of yourself gorgeous. xoxo
I’m currently in upper secondary school and some days I have a whole lot of studying to do. Unfortunately I sometimes feel very unmotivated to actually study. If you’ve ever felt unmotivated to study (it’s okay, we all have) you also know that it feels like the hardest toughest and most unappealing thing in the world to finish all of the assignments in front of you. Therefore, I tried to find a few strategies to survive a studying session even when ones motivation is nowhere to be seen. Read and enjoy, I hope it helps!
1. Write a list of what you need to do. This gives you a good overview of what needs to be done. When you have a lot of things whirling around in your head even the smallest of them seem like mountains when it’s really just grit. Making lists will help you avoid this.
2. Divide everything into smaller steps. Grit can too seem like a lot. I like to be really specific about what I need to do. For example, instead of just writing “read page 34-46”, I write “read page 34-36, 37-39, 40-42” and so on. I find that it feels more moderate that way.
3. Make a schedule. Put these small steps into a schedule. I usually put smaller breaks in the schedule as well. By doing that you will motivate yourself to complete the steps before the break since taking that break is all you really want.
4. Reward yourself. Decide to take a piece of chocolate or something else you find tasty after a certain amount of work. I usually reward myself after solving a math problem, reading a page or learning a word.
5. Just start. The hardest but most important thing to do. Because if you never start, you’ll never finish. Sometimes all you need is to sit down at the table and open a book.
Good luck everyone!