A Calendar Idea to Express Your Appreciation for Whoever You Think Deserves It

As November is coming to an end christmas is just around the corner. Personally I believe in christmas being a good time to show kindness and appreciation towards the people we think deserve it most. Surely this should always be done, but December and all it brings seems to bring that side out of many, including myself. One way of doing this is through thoughtful gifts. Most people do expect gifts during the holidays, which is why I am going to share an innovative alternative that I think would be happily recieved by anyone. I call it “24 Days of Appreciation”.

The concept is simple. It is a type of advent calendar, containing a number of surprises in shape of things you appreciate about the person you are giving the calendar. The number depends on your personal preference, but I have chosen twentyfour since we in Sweden celebrate christmas on christmas eve, on the twentyfourth of December. What you want to fill the calendar with is also completely up to you. Some suggestions are things you appreciate about the person, your favourite memories with them, photographs of the two of you, things they are good at, quotes or anything you think will put a smile on their face.

I am giving this to one of my favourite people on this planet, someone who knows me better than I do and is always there for me, no matter what. Sadly, this person does not seem know how incredibly wonderful they are which is why I have chosen to bring them awareness of why they are such a fantastic person. Because they deserve it.

If you too want to make someone know how deeply you care about them or that they deserve the world, I really believe in this idea. Imagine yourself recieving a calendar of this kind, getting to start twentyfour days with getting an insight in why you are amazing. It does not sound too bad, does it? So take the chance to give someone else that joy. It does not have to cost much either, all you really need is paper and a pen. This shows that it really is the thought that counts.

Stay original, gorgeous! xoxo

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Why Criticism is Necessary

I do not for a secound believe that there is a single successful person in this world who has not taken their share of criticism. People criticise for various reasons; maybe it is out of jealousy or disagreement, or maybe it is to make the person being criticised reflect upon their work and push them forward in their personal or professional development. Either way, criticism should never be two things: taken personally, or taken lightely.

If you ask someone to give you feedback on something you have been working on, how much does it give you to only hear good things about it? Sure, it might make you happy and feel like you are succeeding. But nothing is ever perfect; your work can always be improved.

As the perfectionist I am I have always taken criticism badly. I do not show my work to anyone until I am satisfied with it and if someone points out the flaws, my intuitive response has always been that they are wrong. That I, who have worked on whatever I have worked on for hours and hours, know better than someone who has looked at it for a couple of minutes.

I recently got a new English teacher. One of the first assignments I got was to write a literary analysis on a critically acclaimed book. I read the book, I wrote the analysis, I asked for feedback. Never in my life have any teacher commented that much on a text that I have written. I raised my eyebrows and could not believe that the text that I considered to be one of the best things I had ever produced was so bad that he could comment that much on it. After reading through his comments I did what I have always done. I rejected them. I was offended. I thought that I knew better.

Did I know better? No, of course not. I simply could not see that the criticism he gave me was to push me to make an even better analysis. That he was doing his job. That he was teaching me English. And to be honest, he has taught me more during two months than my last teacher did during all of last year. My last teacher was wonderful, but she did not push me. She did not criticise me.

Even if my current teacher had been wrong about every single thing he pointed out in my text, it would still have had importance. By reading his suggestions and considering them, I would have had to value what I had originally written and question why I had written what I had in the certain way that I had which would have brought me awareness of my work. Then, if someone else questioned it in the same way he did, I could motivate why I had chosen to do what I had done.

In conclusion, we should not be afraid of neither standing up for our work nor changing it if we realise improvements can be made. No matter if the criticiser is our teacher, our neighbor or a complete stranger, his or her words are valuable for us and our growth. Then, we must also learn to seperate criticism from hate, or rather how to turn hate into criticism, and not let words tear us down rather than lift us up.

Keep your head high and stay original, gorgeous. xoxo

5 Small Efforts for Better Results in School

Today, school in Sweden is officially starting again after our beloved Fall break and so does the semester of hell. Assignments pile up as the motivation is torn down, leaving tired students wondering: will I pass a single course this year? Okay, I realise I am being a bit overdramatic again… But at this time of the year grades are beginning to matter. So I thought that I would share some tiny changes one can make to improve ones results. I hope it helps.

1. Show that you care (even if you do not)

Nobody likes a kiss-ass, but most people like getting their asses kissed. I am not encouraging anyone to become the teacher’s pet but small, subtle gestures can make your teacher like you more and if you are in between two grades he or she will probably pick the higher one. Say hi, say goodbye, take notes, answer questions, ask questions, show interest in his or her lectures. It will make the teacher more motivated and you will get on his or her good side.

2. Communicate

As soon as you have a concern: talk to your teacher. He or she is there to educate you and hopefully he or she wants nothing more than for you to succeed. If you do not understand something he or she can probably explain. If you are anxious about the examination form exceptions and changes can almost always be made. Your teacher will get a better idea of who you are and understand how you function whilst you get to show what you can do under better conditions. Win win.

3. Work with others

Even if group projects are what most students hate most, there are some benefits to it if it is not forced. Asking your classmates for help is beneficial for both you and them. You can discuss and exchange perspectives to get a wider picture of whatever you are working with which can be nothing but good. If you are reading through each others texts you can come with suggestions on how to make it even better, fix grammatical errors etcetera before you hand it in. It is always good to have an extra pair of eyes look at your work, since you will get blind for your own words after reading them for the hundredth time. Do not be afraid to ask someone for some feedback.

4. Have smart strategies

Personally, I am the most effective when I focus on one thing and one thing only until it is done. With all my attention on this one task, it gets done quicker and attain higher quality than if I were to think of the thirtyeight other things I have to do whilst doing it. Regarding this everyone has to find their own strategy that works best for them. If I were you I would dedicate some time to find yours and save you many hours of your future life.

5. Refuel

Do not forget that you are only human. You need sleep and you need food, prioritize this. When getting stressed it can become hard to sleep and the concept of hunger can be forgotten or pushed aside. But pulling all-nighters and skipping meals will not do you any favours. The extra hours you get from it will be inefficient due to lack of fuel and your work will not get nearly as good as it would with a few hours of sleep and a proper meal in stock. It will not be worth it, I promise.

Stay original, gorgeous! xoxo

Finding the Right Motivation

The one and the same thing can be done with different levels of ease depending on ones attitude towards it. Or rather ones reasons behind it. Doing things just because you have to is for example significantly more demanding than doing things because you think they are fun… So, how do you make the demanding tasks easy? By finding the right motivation.


When I first started Originally My about a year ago it didn’t take long before I made posts only for the sake of it. I was so hung up on posting every secound day that I completely forgot about actually filling the posts with content I was proud of and found inspiring. Instead of writing about subjects I cared about I constantly grasped after the first best thing, a strategy that was highly unsustainable for a longer period of time.

 Since I restarted it all this summer I have only published posts I think are good. Many of them could be much better, both regarding the writing and the photography, but they are me. My style, my skills, my values. Why? Because I write them for me. My motivation to make posts is no longer to create the perfect website, as it was last year, but rather to express my creativity and hopefully inspire someone else. I’ve found a new, more motivating, motivation.


The same goes for pretty much anything. Are you trying to start running? Sign up for a race you can’t get out of. Do you have to clean out your wardrobe? Think of all of the new clothes you will be able to fill it with. Are you studying something boring which seems to be a complete waste of time? Find something in your future that may benefit from you learning all of it now. Or, you could just bribe yourself with candy…

It’s all about finding the right motivation for you.

I wish you the best of luck with that, and don’t you forget to stay original! xoxo

The Secrets Behind Staying Productive

When I set my mind to it, I can be the most productive human being alive. I just do and do and do and do until there’s nothing left to do! And even then, I often start a new project or pick up one from years ago. This level of productivity rarely lasts over longer periods of time though. But I’ve actually managed to decode what pushes me forward and gives me motivation, so that I can stay productive for as long as I need. Below are a few tips and tricks to help you do the same!

Set Deadlines

Never in my seventeen years have I missed a deadline. I am the type of person that finishes things on time, even when it comes to the things I hate the most. Without deadlines the chanses are big that I simply won’t take the time to do what I should. But I literally just have to set a time and date and it will get done. That’s just how I work and I believe a lot of you do to.

Make Lists

By making lists of what you need to do you’ll not only get a good overview of what’s ahead but also let your brain rest by not having to remember all of it. It can also help to include how much time each task will take. If you have 10 minutes to spare some day, you can look at your list and see if you can get something done in that amount of time.

Find Tools to Help You

Personally I have two tools which helps me stay productive. The first one is a weekly planner. It’s nothing special, it just helps me prioritize and see when I have time for the things I want but don’t have to do. The second thing is the app Todoist. You divide your tasks into categories/projects, set deadlines, set how high of a priority it is and when you’re done you can easily tick it off. It makes productivity so much easier, I promise!


These are the secrets behind my productivity! I hope you liked this post and that I’ll see you back here soon.

Stay original, gorgeous! xoxo

 

How to Make Every Morning Your Best

I’ve mentioned that I’m not a morning person before, but lately I’ve started to find strategies to handle them. Two weeks ago I went back to school. About two nights before I thought about how chaotic my mornings always are when getting back there. For years they’ve primarily consisted of not finding anything to wear, forgetting everything there is to forget and over-all stressing until you don’t know what’s what. I decided once and for all that that was not going to be my reality anymore and so far I’ve actually managed to have quite nice mornings. Today I thought I would share some of the most important changes I’ve made to make every morning my best.

Prepare & Plan

My number one tip is to prepare as much possible the night before to minimize the number of tasks you have to tick of in the morning. For me, these tasks include picking my outfit, packing my bag and deciding what to have for breakfast. Then I don’t have to make any decisions nor look for anything I need to bring that day. Everything is under control.

Skip the Snoozing

I know that the bed is the most wonderful place to be in the morning and how easily those “five more minutes” turns into half an hour extra. I still do it sometimes, but my best mornings are actually the mornings I get out of bed the second I wake up. Yes, I’m tired, but I would be anyway as long as I wouldn’t sleep for at least five more hours. So instead of putting myself in a situation where I have to stress my way through the morning I get out of bed as quickly as possible and enjoy doing my makeup for 30-45 minutes. If you’re not a big makeup enthusiast, maybe you could start the day with another interest, a bit of reading or an episode of your favourite show? Those extra minutes of doing something you find therapeutic gives your brain a chance to wake up properly.  This of course works differently for everyone, but it deserves to be given a try.

Make Time for Breakfast

The fact that breakfast is the most important meal of the day is not to be taken lightely. I always set aside at least 30 minutes to make and enjoy a proper breakfast. As I wrote above I decide what to eat for breakfast the night before since I seriously can’t handle putting together a healthy, energizing and well-tasting meal in the morning. For me that’s literally an impossible mission and I think a lot of people feel the same way. If you’re one of them, give it a go to plan what to eat beforehand.

Take a Moment for Yourself

At some point during the morning I recommend you to take a moment and think about things you’re grateful for, what will make this day good and how amazing you are. You bring out a positivive mindset which will make all challenges of the day easier to approach and handle. By doing some ego boosting you’ll also build up your confidence and eventually walk out the door feeling like you own the world. These things take time, but the time to start is now.

In conclusion, I believe in analyzing your current morning routine and identify all elements that take more energy than they give to then exchange or fix them. A good morning often leads to a good day. Give yourself a chance to experience those days.

I hope this post helped you in some way and that I’ll see you again soon. Stay original, gorgeous! xoxo

To Dare to Open Up

After my post What Everybody Should Do ASAP I recieved many kind words from my friends. They told me that it was such a beautifully written post and that I was very strong to open up and share my thoughts and feelings about this – somewhat sensitive – subject.

For me it was a natural thing to do. The subject I wrote about was something I was struggling with, so when I found a solution that actually made me feel better I didn’t see any reason not to inform others of it and it’s benefits. I was just happy to maybe help someone.

But obviously it’s not that natural for everyone. I think the reason why I find it easy to open up about different issues I might have is that I’ve stopped fleeing from them. By really embracing them and accepting that they’re a part of me and my life I subconsciously work them through. Without even realising it, I’m sorting things out. I’m making connections and drawing conclusions about why I’m experiencing what I’m experiencing, why I’m feeling what I’m feeling, and eventually find the hidden source of it all.

When I’ve done that I’ve made peace with the problem. I don’t find it as bothering anymore, even if it of course still makes certain situations in my life much harder than they should be. But if someone in that situation asks me what’s wrong I can without doubt tell them. Not the whole story, but enough to make them understand.

Then I can see why sharing it on the world wide web can seem a bit more terrifying (even on a small site like mine). What makes me want and dare to share my worked through information here is that I would’ve wanted someone to provide me that information while I was struggling with the problem. So when I write posts about sensitive subjects, it’s simply because I hope it will keep someone else from feeling like they’re going through the same thing on their own.

I’m not sure if all of this makes sense, but to somewhat sum things up I think it’s important to embrace ones problems and make peace with them. Not only will that make it easier to handle situations where a problem shows it’s true colours, but it will also make it easier to talk about it. With one self, a friend, a teacher, a parent, a computer… You name it.

I hope you found this post inspiring. Stay original, xoxo

 

To Try and Try Again

Failure is a scary thing. The fear of not succeeding keeps many from doing what they really want to do. Especially when it comes to trying something new or doing something which is not totally accepted by ones community. The hankering to prove those people, those who don’t accept your ideas, wrong is not bigger than the fear of failing and having to hear people think “Who did you think you were to think you could do something like that?”.

This post is going to be all about that. Success, failure and the importance of trying and trying again. Being scared of failing eliminates the oppurtunity to both personal and global development. It also deprives you of your freedom. Being locked up is not necessarily a physical state, the restrictions you put on your passions and true wishes are just as prohibiting.

In Sweden we have a concept called “Jantelagen”. It’s basically a norm which claims that no one can stand out or think they are capable of something someone else isn’t. In smaller places, such as where I live, this norm is taken seriously. If you get the choice to go big or go home, you’re expected to go home. In a reality like that it’s hard to not be afraid of failing when doing something which breaks “Jantelagen”.

I’ve struggled to truly be myself. To do what I want to do, to over-win my fear of failing. I have not yet crossed the finish line, but I have reached a point where I’m not afraid to dream. I’m not afraid to have visions, set goals or think further than my community might want me to. But most importantly: I’m not afraid to get up when I fall. I’m not afraid to try again after one failed attempt. Or four for that matter.

Furthermore I’m having a hard time grasping how you’re supposed to reach success without failing. As I’ve written in one of my songs (yes, I write songs): when you succeed, you succeed, when you bleed, you learn. Every fail comes with a lesson. Don’t let that new knowledge be wasted! Give it another shot and put it to good use! If you once beat the fear of failing and get started with whatever you want to do, the next step is to not give up in case you actually fail. Because you probably will, the first time. But failure is not the end. It’s the start of a new beginning.

Stay original gorgeous, I believe in you. xoxo

What EVERYBODY Should Do ASAP

I am now going to tell you a story. It’s an important one when it comes to my personal growth as well as health and therefore I feel obligated to share it. Because what I end up doing in the end of this story is something I think every single person on this planet should do too.

It was a day in late April. As the amount of sun-hours grew, so did the number of people talking about bikini bodies. My superficial insecurities thrived from all of the perfectly toned stomachs and unbelievebly lifted butts I saw more and more often on Instagram. One day I realised that I was feeling happy about being hungry. My brain had compromised it all to that the way of achieving what I wanted, or what society told me I wanted, was to not eat (I’m not too comfortable talking about my relationship with food yet but I think you get the gesture).

The same day I was lying on my couch, scrolling through Instagram. About half of the pictures made me think about the realisation I’d just had. I was suffocating from hearing all the different voices in my head. “I need to start working out”, “I need to stop eating so much”, “You do not need to do shit, now finish your cookie”. The last thought won that battle. I did not fall for the pressure of achieving the unachievable. Instead, in panic and frustration, I went through all of the people I was following on Instagram and unfollowed every single account which made me feel bad about myself. I believe that was around 120 accounts.


Doing that was one of the best things I’ve EVER done. I felt so empowered and proud from being able to cut the cords to so many different sources of illness. Because I didn’t just unfollow people who made me feel bad about my body, but also people from my past who had treated me badly and made me feel bad all over again just by being in my feed.┬áTo somehow turn these words into a clear message, I really encourage you to do what I did: clear out sources of illness from your social media, especially Instagram. It’s such a small thing to do but it changes sooo much. And while you’re at it, you can start following some nice and positive acounts such as @selfloveclub, @bodypositivememes, @omgkenzieee and @bodyposipanda.

Stay original, stay strong and take good care of yourself gorgeous. xoxo

How To Study When Unmotivated

I’m currently in upper secondary school and some days I have a whole lot of studying to do. Unfortunately I sometimes feel very unmotivated to actually study. If you’ve ever felt unmotivated to study (it’s okay, we all have) you also know that it feels like the hardest toughest and most unappealing thing in the world to finish all of the assignments in front of you. Therefore, I tried to find a few strategies to survive a studying session even when ones motivation is nowhere to be seen. Read and enjoy, I hope it helps! 

1. Write a list of what you need to do. This gives you a good overview of what needs to be done. When you have a lot of things whirling around in your head even the smallest of them seem like mountains when it’s really just grit. Making lists will help you avoid this.

2. Divide everything into smaller steps. Grit can too seem like a lot. I like to be really specific about what I need to do. For example, instead of just writing “read page 34-46”, I write “read page 34-36,  37-39, 40-42” and so on. I find that it feels more moderate that way.

3. Make a schedule. Put these small steps into a schedule. I usually put smaller breaks in the schedule as well. By doing that you will motivate yourself to complete the steps before the break since taking that break is all you really want.

4. Reward yourself. Decide to take a piece of chocolate or something else you find tasty after a certain amount of work. I usually reward myself after solving a math problem, reading a page or learning a word. 

5. Just start. The hardest but most important thing to do. Because if you never start, you’ll never finish.  Sometimes all you need is to sit down at the table and open a book. 

Good luck everyone!